Getting My Ex Girlfriend Back

Following a break up, a ton of people will ask themselves what they could have done to stay together with their boyfriend or girlfriend.   What the freak you I have done differently?  I thought I was doing everything right but they still left.  People will agonize thinking over what they did or did not do and what they could have done differently.  This is when the trouble starts in their mind and they start the “letters”, the “texting” the “30 phone calls” per day routine to try and get their relationship back.

The problem arises because for most people they really are not sure why the relationship ended in the first place so all of the letters, texting and phone calls will turn out to be wasted energy.  Women for example, are some emotional people.  Sometimes they may not even understand why they feel the way they do that lead to the break up in the first place. That’s why I feel that it is futile to waste so much time and energy on finding out “what went wrong” in your relationship.

I find it best for me that when a relationship has gone bad, I need to get my mind off of the situation however I can.  For me I like to work on me, work on being positive or even work my butt off at work.  Distance yourself from the relationship and get busy doing something else for a while.

Things you can do:

1. Work.
2. Take a vacation.
3. Meet new people.
4. Develop your game of getting dates and seduction

The bottom line is to take some time off and get to know yourself, work on yourself and get your mind straight.  By the end of a couple of months you will feel regenerated and refreshed!   You will be in a good state of mind.

Given a couple of months will give you a better idea what direction you want to go with your ex because taking a step back like this and getting a perspective on relationships in general will help you change the way you think and your life surrounding this or other relationships.

The question of whether or not you want to be with that same person will come up and you need to address the possibility of getting back with them or moving on to greener pastures.   Accordingly, if you decide to try and get back together with your ex you will need to figure out how they feel about you.

Planning is crucial to the success of getting back with your ex.  You have an opportunity to be direct and bold.  But do not fall back in to the emotional turmoil of sending a ton of letter, texts and annoying phone calls, they don’t work.  Keep your emotions out of the equation.

What you want to do is to play a little hard to get, be a bit aloof and above all play things cool and on the down low.  She will start to rethink the relationship if she thinks you are doing fine without her so DON”T over do it and mess everything up.

Be cool and don’t over analyze things too much.  If it meant to be it will be.  Trying to get your ex back may take a little time, be patient work your plan.  You will realize and know if things are meant to be by following this approach, pay attention to the signs.

Good Luck

Dub Green
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